Breaking Free

Feeling like your self-worth has gone on a bit of a wilderness adventure, perhaps led astray by some rather unreliable guides (aka, unhealthy relationships)?

You are so not alone, and here's the brilliant plot twist: you are the cartographer of your own worth, and you hold the compass to guide it back home. At Be You, Love Wins, we know that your value is as inherent as the twinkle in a star, not something others can bestow or, heaven forbid, take away. Let's embark on seven empowering steps to help you dust off that inner sparkle and plant your feet firmly in the ground of self-appreciation.

Where did I go?

Do you consistently feel sunshine and growth, or are there persistent storms of criticism, chilly silences, or even the occasional emotional downpour? Identifying those recurring patterns that leave you feeling less than your brilliant self is the first clear forecast. Think of it as becoming your own relationship meteorologist – the more you observe, the better you can predict (and navigate away from) the harmful weather systems.

Become a Relationship Weather Forecaster

Start tuning into the climate of your relationships.

Instead, it's about stepping into the driver's seat of your own journey. Embrace the empowering truth that you have the power to choose differently. Recognising your part in the dance, not as the one being led into every wrong step, but as someone who can learn new moves and even change the music, is incredibly liberating. Remember our motto: "You Are the Change You Seek".

Grab the Steering Wheel of Self-Responsibility

Now, this isn’t about grabbing a soggy towel and blaming yourself for the rain!

Now, offer that same tenderness to the magnificent adult you are today. Shower yourself with the kindness and understanding you so readily give to others. This is where compassion, one of our guiding stars, truly shines. If you wouldn't say something harsh to a friend, why let that inner critic have a field day with you? Let's gently escort that critic to a comfy chair and offer it a cup of tea while you focus on your strengths.

Unleash Your Inner Nurturer (and point it inwards!)

Imagine a tiny, vulnerable version of yourself needing comfort.

Think of boundaries not as impenetrable walls, but as lovely garden fences that protect your precious blooms of energy and self-respect. Learning to say 'no' without guilt and to protect your time and emotional space is an act of profound self-care. Our worksheets and workbooks are like your boundary-building blueprints, filled with practical exercises to help you design and construct these vital structures. Remember, a well-defined 'no' to others is often a resounding 'yes' to yourself.

Create Your Boundary Fortress (with love!)

The Power of NO

Toxic relationships can be like sneaky burglars, chipping away at your self-belief. Start the joyful process of rebuilding that inner trust, brick by gentle brick. Honouring the promises you make to yourself, no matter how small – a quiet walk, a healthy meal, a few minutes of reading – sends a powerful message to your inner being that you are reliable and worthy of your own commitment.

Rebuild Your Inner Vault of Trust

Build Trust With Yourself

Those nagging inner critics often whisper (or shout!) limiting beliefs – those old, dusty stories that tell you you're not good enough, not worthy, not capable. Ask yourself: is this belief actually true, or is it just an old record stuck on repeat? Often, these are outdated tales that no longer fit the incredible person you are becoming. Think of it as Marie Kondo-ing your mind – thank those unhelpful beliefs for the (questionable) service they once provided and then lovingly release them.

Debunk Those Pesky Limiting Beliefs

Gently challenge the narratives.

Acknowledge every single step you take on this journey, no matter how small it may seem. Did you set a boundary? Did you offer yourself a kind word? Celebrate your strengths, your resilience, and your unwavering commitment to your own well-being. Your journey towards healing and self-discovery is a testament to your inherent strength. Remember, your worth isn't a destination to be reached; it's the incredible foundation you're already standing on.

Throw a Celebration for the Amazing You!

Did you even just get through a tough day? That’s a win!

Why not explore our articles and insights for more empowering reads, or download a worksheet to give your self-worth journey an extra boost? You've got this, and at Be You, Love Wins, we know that the most important love story starts with you.

You are doing wonderfully

We're here, cheering you on with warm hearts and unwavering belief in you